Magical Mystery Mastermind XIV
Finding Your Flow
Final Preview • February 11, 2026
Final Preview • February 11, 2026
A different way of knowing yourself.
Not as a fixed object — but as a living process.
I am an object with properties. I have traits stored inside me. Change means fixing what's broken.
I am a continuous process. Dynamically responding in each moment. Nothing to fix — a different way of experiencing to discover.
You can see it. Point to it. It's real.
But try to pick it up. Try to draw where it starts and stops. Try to put it on a truck and drive it somewhere.
You can't — because it's not a thing. It's a description of a pattern that's continuously happening.
What if you're the same kind of phenomenon?
When I ting this cup, it makes a sound.
But the sound isn't inside the cup waiting to come out. It's the cup's capacity to respond, given that stimulus.
Your personality works the same way. What you call "traits" aren't stored inside you — they're capacities that get generated fresh in each moment, in response to context.
The past and future are abstract nouns.
You can think about 1971, but you can't go there. You can imagine next Saturday, but you can't arrive there ahead of time.
Everything that's ever happened to you happened in a present moment. You've never experienced anything else.
Ken Wilber's joke: Want to know how enlightened you are?
Go back to your family at Thanksgiving and watch yourself regress into a teenager.
We respond differently in different contexts. If you were truly a fixed object with fixed properties, this wouldn't happen.
The fact that it does points to something...
Patterns that have been stuck for years — sometimes decades — start to shift and move.
Less mental overhead. More direct response to what's actually here, now.
New options appear. You flow around what used to block you.
Far from floating around, you get into action. More practical. More able to do what matters.
Not from understanding the concepts.
From something else entirely.
The insight comes from looking, not from being told what you'll see.
We use various processes to create direct experiences:
Close your eyes. How do you actually know you have a self? What's the felt sense? Where is it located?
Imagine yourself tiny. Now huge. Now as old as you'll ever be. Watch what happens to the "problem."
Bring something real. Watch what shifts in breath, posture, language — in real-time.
Whirlpool. Cup. Tree boundaries. Fourier transforms.
Not because you need multiple explanations — but because each one lands slightly differently.
The repetition installs something below conscious understanding.
When someone volunteers and something actually moves — that's worth more than any slide.
Everyone watching gets a reference experience:
We're not working on your problems.
We're working on how you're relating to your problems.
That meta-move is where the leverage is.
Change the relationship, and the content reorganises itself.
This isn't about destroying your sense of self.
It's not ego death. You don't become a blank.
It's about adding a new way of seeing alongside your existing one. Like learning a second language doesn't delete your first.
More degrees of freedom. Not less you.
4 live sessions (2.5 hrs each). We establish the shift. Direct work, demonstrations, reference experiences.
7 weeks. 60 mins pre-recorded material each week. Practices (5-20 mins) to embed the learning. Weekly 90-min sharing sessions for integration, facilitated by Debbie and Chris.
5 live sessions (2.5 hrs each). We come back together. See what's shifted. Go deeper into what's alive.
Wednesdays, 2.5 hours each. Dynamic, responsive to what's alive in the room.
60 mins pre-recorded material each week. Watch when you have time during the week.
90-minute sharing sessions during self-study. Facilitated by Debbie and Chris. Process what's emerging.
5-20 minute practices each week. Short enough to fit into real life.
Maximum 12 participants. Small container. Real attention.
You've done the work. Read the books. Had insights that faded by Thursday. And you're still here.
We're not digging into the past. We're shifting how you relate to experience itself.
No rigid curriculum. Dynamic. Responsive to what's actually alive in the room.
You can read about this in a book. Here we create direct experiences of it.
We're not adding more to your to-do list. We're changing how you relate to the list.
This is often exactly why it works.
Most approaches try to change the content — your thoughts, your habits, your behaviors. This works on the structure — how you're relating to all of it.
If you keep treating yourself as a broken thing that needs fixing, you'll keep finding new things to fix. We're questioning the premise itself.
It draws from Buddhist concepts like anatta (no-self) — but I'm not teaching Buddhism, and I'm not asking you to believe anything.
We use precise language and direct experience to show how your mind constructs a fixed self, and what happens when that loosens.
It's actually quite analytical. Many people here are engineers, scientists, business people. The approach is rigorous — just rigorous about different things than you're used to.
Meditation can take years — sometimes decades — to produce these kinds of shifts. And it requires long periods of sitting.
This is more direct. We use language, metaphor, and real-time interaction to create reference experiences now. Then we deepen them over the 16 weeks.
You don't need 10,000 hours on a cushion to access this.
Great — that usually helps. Therapy typically works on content: your stories, your traumas, your patterns.
This works on structure: how you're relating to all that content in the first place.
They're complementary, not competing. Many people do both.
You don't apply it. There's nothing to apply.
The change happens during the sessions, not after. It's ontological — a shift in how you're being, not a technique you use later.
You'll notice things moving in your life over the following 24-72 hours. Not because you did something, but because something shifted.
Letting go of attachment to something is not the same as losing the thing.
Your day-to-day life remains. Your personality remains. You can still function, make decisions, have preferences.
What loosens is the grip. The constriction of maintaining something that was never required in the first place.
You don't lose anything real. You lose the tension of holding on.
The structure is designed for real life:
• Block 1: 4 weeks of live sessions (2.5 hrs each Wednesday)
• Self-study: 7 weeks — 60 mins pre-recorded material + 90-min integration session each week, plus 5-20 min practices
• Block 2: 5 weeks of live sessions
All live sessions recorded if you miss one. The self-study fits around your life — watch the material when you have time during the week.
What would "ready" look like?
Most people aren't as ready as they think they need to be. If something shifted for you in these sessions — even something you can't quite name — part of you is already reaching for this.
The question isn't whether you're ready. It's whether you're willing.
Wednesdays • 11am PT / 2pm ET / 7pm GMT
12 spots total. Some already taken.
Write to me. I'll send the details and we'll make sure it's a fit.
Questions welcome. No rush.
February – June 2026